Sex Therapy

online sex therapy in los angeles and throughout california

Whether you're facing low desire, performance anxiety, difficulty talking about sex, or simply feeling out of sync with your partner, sex therapy can offer a path back to closeness. Many sexual challenges aren't just about the physical; they often stem from emotional distance, miscommunication, or unmet needs. When there's stress, tension, or unresolved hurt in the relationship, it’s hard to feel safe enough to be physically vulnerable. In fact, our bodies need emotional safety in order to experience desire. Growth in therapy is about learning how to better understand each other, communicate more openly, and rebuild intimacy in a way that works for both of you.

Sex therapy helps you explore these deeper patterns while offering practical tools to reconnect and rebuild trust. It's not just about problem solving—it’s about deepening your connection to yourself and your partner. Many couples find that working through sexual concerns leads to stronger emotional bonds and a more fulfilling relationship overall. In therapy, you'll learn to communicate openly about your needs and desires, navigate vulnerability with more confidence, and build a sex life that feels connected and satisfying. You and your partner deserve to feel desired, safe, and close—and sex therapy can be a powerful step toward creating that kind of relationship.

Common topics & feelings addressed in sex therapy:

  • Feeling “out of sync” about sex – When one of you wants sex more or less often than the other

  • Low desire or interest in sex – Wanting to understand where your desire has gone and how to get it back

  • Anxiety or pressure around sex – Feeling nervous, disconnected, or “in your head” during intimate moments

  • Past trauma – Exploring how past experiences may be impacting your ability to feel safe and connected

  • Body image or self-confidence issues – Feeling uncomfortable in your body and how that affects intimacy

  • Not knowing how to talk about sex – Learning how to express your needs, boundaries, and desires

  • Changes after big life events – Reconnecting after having a baby, going through illness, or other major transitions

  • Rebuilding trust after infidelity – Healing emotionally and sexually after betrayal

  • Exploring identity or preferences – Talking through questions about sexual orientation, preferences, or interests

  • Wanting to feel closer – Deepening intimacy and bringing more connection and joy to your sex life

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How Does Sex Therapy Actually Help?

Sex therapy works by helping you and your partner(s) identify and shift the negative emotional cycle that gets in the way of intimacy. Most sexual issues in a relationship aren’t just about technique or desire—they're deeply connected to how safe, loved, and emotionally connected each partner feels. Sex therapy helps you understand the deeper emotions and needs beneath the surface, like fears of rejection, longing for closeness, or feeling unseen. When these are acknowledged and responded to with care, it can creates space for trust, openness, and sexual connection to grow.

It’s common for one partner to feel more comfortable connecting through sex, while the other needs emotional closeness before they can be open to physical intimacy. One partner might say, “I can’t have sex unless I feel close,” while the other feels, “I can’t feel close without sex.” This kind of standoff is incredibly common—and no one is wrong. These patterns are simply different ways of reaching for connection. In therapy, we’ll help you understand what’s happening beneath the surface and work together to create a path forward that feels safe, respectful, and satisfying for both of you.

how therapy works

  • Learn more about the process and make sure this is the best fit for you.

  • In the first session, I’ll meet with you as a couple. The next two sessions will be individual sessions, one with each partner. This is the most efficient way for me to get caught up to where you are as quickly as possible.

  • 1. Identify and de-escalate your cycle of conflict.

    2. Restructure and deepen your bond by seeing each other and yourself in a new way.

    3. Consolidate a new cycle in which you both feel heard, understood, and valued in your secure relationship.

  • Therapy is a process, and progress isn’t linear. While you may experience some immediate relief, there may also be sessions that are uncomfortable and challenging. An important component to success in therapy is allowing the time and consistency that is needed for deeper, meaningful change.

questions you may have

  • That is totally normal—lots of people feel awkward talking about sex at first. In therapy, you set the pace, and you’ll never be pushed to share more than you’re comfortable with. It’s a safe space to explore things gently, when you’re ready.

  • Sex therapy is talk therapy—it’s about having honest conversations in a safe, private space. You won’t be asked to do anything physical in session. Instead, we focus on what’s getting in the way of connection and help you build intimacy outside of therapy. When you’re ready, I can provide touch exercises (like sensate focus) to practice outside of session.

If you have a question that I haven’t answered yet, please reach out!