Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy

online relationship counseling in los angeles and throughout california

Are you and your partner struggling to communicate, trust, or feel truly secure in your relationship? Does it feel like no matter how hard you try, you get stuck in the same arguments over and over again? Do unresolved wounds or anxious patterns from past experiences make it hard to feel safe and connected?

You’re not alone. Couples often get caught in a repeating negative cycle. Whether you’re fighting about big things, little things, or avoiding conflict altogether, there are recurring patterns that keep you from reaching one another effectively. Over time, this cycle takes a toll on the relationship and can lead you to feeling frustrated, lonely, and even hopeless.

My goal is to help you and your partner build a healthier, more fulfilling connection by addressing the patterns and pain points that may be holding you back. Often, there is much more under the surface than we’re consciously aware of. In EFT couples therapy, we’ll identify what is no longer serving you and create new ways of communicating with one another. You’ll gain an understanding of the deeper dynamics in your relationship, which allows you build greater trust and emotional safety. It offers an opportunity to heal old wounds, establish new patterns of secure connection, and strengthen your ability to show up authentically in your relationship.

Common topics & feelings addressed in couples therapy:

Difficulty expressing emotions or vulnerability with your partner
Fearing abandonment or rejection
Conflict that seems to go unresolved
Avoiding emotional or physical intimacy
A tendency to push your partner away
Withdrawing from conflict
Becoming overly dependent or losing your individuality in the relationship
Feeling lonely, even in a committed relationship
A sense that your partner is unreachable
Heightened defensiveness
Struggling to navigate past betrayals or misunderstandings

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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a highly effective and evidence-based approach to helping couples improve their relationships. Research has shown that EFT can lead to significant improvements in relationship satisfaction and overall well-being for couples. In fact, 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvement.
Whether you’re navigating challenges like frequent arguments, emotional distance, or difficulty trusting, couples therapy can offer the tools and support you need to create lasting change. EFT is a compassionate and empathetic approach that gives couples the ability to not only resolve their conflicts but also deepen their emotional connection.

how therapy works

Learn more about the process and make sure this is the best fit for you.

In the first session, I’ll meet with you as a couple. The next two sessions will be individual sessions, one with each partner. This is the most efficient way for me to get caught up to where you are as quickly as possible.

1. Identify and de-escalate your cycle of conflict.
2. Restructure and deepen your bond by seeing each other and yourself in a new way.
3. Consolidate a new cycle in which you both feel heard, understood, and valued in your secure relationship.

Therapy is a process, and progress isn’t linear. While you may experience some immediate relief, there may also be sessions that are uncomfortable and challenging. An important component to success in therapy is allowing the time and consistency that is needed for deeper, meaningful change.

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questions you may have

If you find yourselves stuck in repetitive conflicts, unable to communicate effectively, or experiencing a loss of emotional connection, therapy could be beneficial for your relationship.
While there’s no 100% guarantee in any therapy experience, the research is clear: EFT works. It has received the American Psychological Association’s “gold standard” as the most effective couples therapy approach.
While couples therapy is most beneficial with both partners, there are alternative options. I provide therapy for individuals who may want to work on their relationship challenges, even if their partner is not currently participating in therapy.